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Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon is your destination for profound, enlightening discussions about love, family, intimacy, and everything in between. A podcast that gives us the opportunity to reimagine ourselves, our relationships, and our world. Hosted by renowned clinical psychologist, professor, and author Dr. Alexandra Solomon featuring conversations with listeners as well as notable guests.
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Are You Ready to Date Again?
Thinking about re-entering the dating scene after a breakup or loss? How can you tell if you're truly ready to get back out there? In this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra provides five Relational Self-Awareness-informed indicators that you can use to help you discern whether you’re ready to date again.
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Listen to Reimagining Love's "Guidance for the Newly Single" episode
Learn more about Relational Self-Awareness with Dr. Alexandra's books, Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back
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What Role Did You Play in Your Family of Origin?
In this in-depth solo episode, Dr. Alexandra explains the six common roles we played in our original family systems. Way before we ever were involved in a romantic relationship, we were part of a family system, and that system, for better or for worse, shaped our ideas about who we can and cannot be. Through understanding our past, we can see how these roles continue to show up in our relationships today and use that knowledge as a powerful Relational Self-Awareness tool.
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Take the Family of Origin Roles Quiz
Reimagining Love: "Tending to "Little You" & Exploring Your Family of Origin"
Dr. Alexandra's Psychotherapy Networker Article
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Come Together: Cultivating Sexual Connection in Long-term Relationships with Dr. Emily Nagoski
Emily Nagoski joins Reimagining Love for a vulnerable and expansive conversation about nurturing lasting sexual connections in long-term partnerships. As an award-winning sex educator and author, Emily combines groundbreaking research, sex education, and stress education to expand our ideas about women's sexuality. In her new book, Come Together, Emily explores how long-term couples maintain sexual connection over time. Together, Emily and Dr. Alexandra uncover the importance of moving away from the "shoulds" in our sex lives and towards discovering more confidence and joy with our partners.
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Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections by Emily Nagoski
Dates for Emily's upcoming book tour
Learn more about Emily's work online and on Instagram
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The D Word: An Empowering Approach to Divorce with Kate Anthony
Renowned divorce coach Kate Anthony sits down with Dr. Alexandra to offer us an empowering approach to divorce that centers accountability and integrity. Sharing wisdom from her own divorce, Kate guides Dr. Alexandra through the experience, from exploring what is embedded within the question ‘should I stay or should I go?’ to all the tricky things that emerge in the aftermath of a separation: parenting decisions, the gender dynamics of divorce, and the heaps of unsolicited advice that’s coming your way.
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The D Word: Making the Ultimate Decision about Your Marriage by Kate Anthony
Listen to The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast
Explore Kate's program Should I Stay or Should I Go?
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The Power of Play: Embodying Sex Positivity with Nicoletta Heidegger
Therapist and sexologist Nicoletta Heidegger joins Reimagining Love for an expansive conversation about all things sexuality. Nicoletta's approach shows the power of sex-positivity — encouraging curiosity about how everyone can learn to have better sex and, in doing so, build deeper connections to our senses, our relationships, and ourselves.
Learn more about Nicoletta's work:
https://www.nicolettavheidegger.com/
Nicoletta's Sex and Scholars Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/ie/podcast/sluts-and-scholars/id1223781930
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Intergenerational Healing: A Holistic Approach to Breaking Cycles with Dr. Mariel Buqué
Dr. Mariel Buqué joins Reimagining Love to discuss her debut book, Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma. As an expert in intergenerational trauma, Dr. Buqué offers wisdom on what gets passed down within families: not only inheritances of pain and trauma but also precious stories and gifts. Dr. Buqué shares her journey of infusing traditional clinical frameworks with holistic healing practices, paving a path through intergenerational wounds and toward emotional liberation.
Break the Cycle: A Guide to Healing Intergenerational Trauma by Dr. Mariel Buqué:
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https://www.drmarielbuque.com/
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Reflect With Me: Checking In With Ourselves and Our Relationships in the New Year
In this special mini-solo episode, Dr. Alexandra invites you to join her as she reflects on 2023 and moves into the new year with intentionality. Sharing her perspective on resolutions, Dr. Alexandra encourages listeners to navigate this time with self-compassion and gentleness. Then, Dr. Alexandra guides listeners through two exercises designed to reflect on the lessons and challenges of the past year and find optimism for this upcoming year.
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"My Partner’s Unhealthy Habit is Driving Me Crazy!" (Part Two)
Whether it's smoking, indulging in less-than-ideal meals or not hitting the gym as often as we desire, it's easy to take our partner's unhealthy habit personally. If you're struggling to cope with a partner's habit, Dr. Alexandra is here to help. In the second episode of this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra introduces the idea of a 'Health Habit Discrepancy' and encourages you to get curious about why you and your partner might think differently about health habits. Then, Dr. Alexandra speaks to both partners, providing guidance on how to navigate this conversation with sensitivity and understanding.
Listen to Part One of this series:
https://pod.link/1588419386/episode/dd33d984d5286c48565c965b7487f1ec
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"My Partner’s Unhealthy Habit is Driving Me Crazy!" (Part One)
Whether it's smoking, indulging in less-than-ideal meals or not hitting the gym as often as we desire, it's easy to take our partner's unhealthy habits personally. If you're struggling to cope with a partner's habit, Dr. Alexandra is here to help. In the first episode of this two-part series, Dr. Alexandra examines what might be lying beneath your concerns and offers strategies for you to explore.
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Guidance for the Newly Single: 5 Strategies for Stability and Healing
Today’s solo episode is geared towards the “newly single,” whether you just got out of a brief situationship or a long-term, serious partnership. Dr. Alexandra breaks down what research tells us about why breakups are so challenging, and then delivers five practical strategies to help you feel more like you in this new era.
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Connecting Self-Care to Community Care: Healing Together with Minaa B.
Minaa B. joins Dr. Solomon to discuss healing from trauma and the power of connecting self-care to community care. As a licensed social worker and mental health educator, Minaa's work explores the intersection of mental health and social justice, and uses this understanding to give context to our personal struggles, from our childhoods to the systems of oppression that deeply impact our communities.
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Owning Our Struggles: A Path to Healing and Finding Community in a Broken World by Minaa B.:
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The Highs and Lows of Finding "Your Person": Bringing a Sense of Humor to Dating with Julie Krafchick & Yue Xu
Julie Krafchick and Yue Xu, hosts of the popular podcast Dateable, join Dr. Solomon for a fun, yet insightful, conversation about all things dating. Together, they explore our rapidly changing dating culture and tackle three sticky relationship situations.
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100th Episode: Answering Your Questions!
Today's show is the 100th episode of Reimagining Love! Dr. Solomon celebrates this milestone by answering several great listener questions: one from a woman in her 20s who is grappling with stability vs adventure in her love life; one about ambition differences between two partners; and one from a man desiring more affection from his partner. Take a listen to hear from Dr. Solomon on all of these great questions!
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Family Dynamics: How to Maintain Your Voice and Your Connection with Your Family of Origin with Julia Samuel
Dr. Solomon is joined by therapist and author Julia Samuel for a wide-spanning conversation about family systems, intergenerational healing, grief, and money.
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Every Family Has a Story: How We Inherit Love and Loss by Julia Samuel:
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Kids & Digital Wellness: Parenting in the Age of Screens with Dr. Devorah Heitner
Dr. Devorah Heitner, an author and digital wellness expert, joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about parenting, technology, and the internet. As our world become more and more complex for kids of all ages, Dr. Heitner empowers parents to have conversations with their kids at all ages and stages, model healthy tech usage, and more.
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Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World by Devorah Heitner, PhD:
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Desire Differences: What to Do When You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Libidos with Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer Vencill
If you and your partner have a desire difference between you, you're not alone. In this episode, Dr. Solomon is joined by guests Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy and Dr. Jennifer Vencill for an honest and compassionate conversation about mismatched libidos and how partners can navigate this challenge as a team.
Desire: An Inclusive Guide to Navigating Libido Differences in Relationships by Dr. Lauren Fogel Mersy & Dr. Jennifer Vencill
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Love, Acceptance, & Growth: The Insights We Glean from Couples Therapy with Dr. Tracy Dalgleish
Dr. Solomon is joined by Dr. Tracy Dalgleish for a rich discussion about both of their new books, as well as the growth potential for couples when they engage in therapy and Relational Self-awareness.
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My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies
Resentment is one of the most common yet debilitating emotional states we can find ourselves stuck in. In this solo episode, Dr. Solomon normalizes the feeling of resentment and offers nine strategies that can help us get unstuck and begin to honor our own feelings and offer compassion to the people we love.
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Episode #24 of Reimagining Love, 10 Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict:
Part 1: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444
Part 2: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000556284436
Episode #33 of Reimagining Love, Disrupting the Overfunctioning/Underfunctioning Dynamic:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000565488608
Episode #50 of Reimagining Love, Tending to Little You and Exploring Your Family of Origin:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000584624154
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Navigating Open Relationships: How to Create Agreements that Foster Security and Growth with Jessica Fern & David Cooley
[CW: this episode contains mentions of suicidal ideation.] Intentional boundaries and thoughtful agreements help us ensure that our intimate partnerships are vehicles for growth, mutual support, and healing, especially for individuals and couples who are looking to create relationship agreements beyond monogamy to deepen their understanding of relationship dynamics. Today Dr Solomon is joined by Jessica Fern and David Cooley. They are are life partners, coparents, and coauthors of the new book Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In this rich and challenging episode, you will learn about loving with greater care and awareness, whether you are someone who practices monogamy or ethical nonmonogamy.
Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern and David Cooley:
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Help! My Kids Don't Want Me to Date!
Blending families is messy. There are no hard and fast rules. Today's solo episode is devoted to one listener question about dating and motherhood. The question's theme of intentionality, about modeling relationships with the kids and her healing journey is far from an isolated experience. There will be nuggets in this episode to savor and work with for separate conversations between the ex, the boyfriend, and the kids.
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The Extraordinary Importance of Sleep (P&T, December 2018) Susan Worley
Wendy M. Troxel, Ph.D., Theodore F. Robles, Ph.D., Martica Hall, Ph.D., and Daniel J. Buysse
The Bizarre Social History of Beds What We Did in Bed: A Horizontal History by Brian Fagan and Nadia Durrani
Is sleeping in separate beds bad for your relationship? A sleep scientist answers (TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series)
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