Love Every Day
365 Relational Self-Awareness Practices to Help Your Relationship Heal, Grow and Thrive
Your guide to be seen and loved as your most authentic self―and heal from times when you weren’t.
Learn to listen with empathy, understand and interrupt unhealthy patterns, advocate for your needs, offer heartfelt apologies, tend to your inner child, practice self-compassion, and more.
AWARENESSPractice adjusting your lens to understand how your inner world, relationship patterns, and larger cultural context all affect and influence each other. You’ll find a number of entries in this book that explore how various influences on our relationships—the micro (individual and couple dynamics) and the macro (cultural factors)—mirror each other.
CURIOSITYHelp you and your partner ensure that your partnership becomes a “classroom” where all your experiences become lessons that help you understand yourselves and each other more deeply. Coauthor a love story with the power to heal your past and help you celebrate your individual and collective potential.
EMPOWERMENTWHY I WROTE LOVE EVERY DAYRedefine what it means to love and be loved.
Love is a classroom where we learn about ourselves, others, and the world around us in the most profound and humbling ways imaginable. Over the past nearly three decades, I’ve had the privilege of teaching thousands of students, working with hundreds of couples in my therapy practice, and sharing my relationship insights with millions on social media. Love Every Day is a compilation of many of these reflections all in one place to help you explore the pressing relationship challenges of our time.
I hope this book can serve as a textbook of sorts for your relationship, sparking inquiry and self-reflection in that beautiful space of learning. Set aside some time each day to read an entry.
Flip through to find what you need in that moment or flip to today’s date and dive in.
I am grateful to be on this journey with you.
“Love isn't just something that happens to us; it's something we actively create, nurture, and sustain through our daily choices.”
A glimpse at what’s inside
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Rest more comfortably in self-worth and understand the powerful connection between self-love and intimacy with a partner.
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Lose the “me versus you” mindset and move into an “us versus the problem” mindset that deepens intimacy.
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Learn what it means to fight against disconnection rather than against each other.
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Find reasons to feel good in your skin and connect with a partner in ways that feel wonderful for you both.
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FEATURED TALKLoving Bravely: Creating and Maintaining Intimacy in a Long-Term Relationship
Dr. Alexandra is a dynamic speaker who is known for her ability to invite her audiences to explore the complexities of relationships with curiosity and compassion. In her Loving Bravely featured talk, Dr. Alexandra helps your audience explore how emotional and sexual intimacy relate to one another, and she offers tools and perspectives to help you stay connected to yourself and your spouse.
Related Resources
Continue building your Relational Self-Awareness with these resources from Dr. Alexandra and her Loving Bravely newsletter, with fresh insights and practical guidance that expand on the lessons in the book.
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THE LOVING BRAVELY CHALLENGE4 WAYS TO RECONNECT AFTER A FIGHT (EVEN WHEN YOU KIND OF DON’T WANT TO)When the dust settles after an argument, the real question isn’t who won, it’s “Are we still OK?”
WHY DO WE ALWAYS END UP FIGHTING ON FAMILY VACATION?Three conversations to help you protect your relationship and plan for how you’ll stay close in the chaos.
THREE SIMPLE WAYS TO SOFTEN YOUR LOVE (EVEN ON HARD DAYS)If stress is the main character in your conversations lately, here are three small, intentional ways to invite more ease into your relationship.