My 9 Favorite Resentment-Busting Strategies
Resentment is one of the most common yet debilitating emotional states we can find ourselves stuck in. In this solo episode, Dr. Solomon normalizes the feeling of resentment and offers nine strategies that can help us get unstuck and begin to honor our own feelings and offer compassion to the people we love.
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Episode #24 of Reimagining Love, 10 Essential Skills for Navigating Conflict:
Part 1:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000555568444
Part 2:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000556284436
Episode #33 of Reimagining Love, Disrupting the Overfunctioning/Underfunctioning Dynamic:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000565488608
Episode #50 of Reimagining Love, Tending to Little You and Exploring Your Family of Origin:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000584624154
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Navigating Open Relationships: How to Create Agreements that Foster Security and Growth with Jessica Fern & David Cooley
[CW: this episode contains mentions of suicidal ideation.] Intentional boundaries and thoughtful agreements help us ensure that our intimate partnerships are vehicles for growth, mutual support, and healing, especially for individuals and couples who are looking to create relationship agreements beyond monogamy to deepen their understanding of relationship dynamics. Today Dr Solomon is joined by Jessica Fern and David Cooley. They are are life partners, coparents, and coauthors of the new book Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships. In this rich and challenging episode, you will learn about loving with greater care and awareness, whether you are someone who practices monogamy or ethical nonmonogamy.
Polywise: A Deeper Dive Into Navigating Open Relationships by Jessica Fern and David Cooley:
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Help! My Kids Don't Want Me to Date!
Blending families is messy. There are no hard and fast rules. Today's solo episode is devoted to one listener question about dating and motherhood. The question's theme of intentionality, about modeling relationships with the kids and her healing journey is far from an isolated experience. There will be nuggets in this episode to savor and work with for separate conversations between the ex, the boyfriend, and the kids.
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The Extraordinary Importance of Sleep (P&T, December 2018) Susan Worley
Wendy M. Troxel, Ph.D., Theodore F. Robles, Ph.D., Martica Hall, Ph.D., and Daniel J. Buysse
The Bizarre Social History of Beds What We Did in Bed: A Horizontal History by Brian Fagan and Nadia Durrani
Is sleeping in separate beds bad for your relationship? A sleep scientist answers (TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series)
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"If They Wanted To, They Would."
A phrase we've been hearing a lot lately, especially in the dating world, and I’m sure you have as well is “If they wanted to, they would.” In today's episode, Dr. Alexandra will look at the kinds of fears and beliefs that lead people to stick the “if they wanted to they would” label on a relationship dynamic. You'll also lean into what might be happening in a dynamic that would lead you to declare “if they wanted to, they would” and what else you might do besides stick this label on and walk away.
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Let's Talk About "Sleep Divorces"
We generally assume that long-term partners sleep in the same bed together. But for some couples, sleep issues or other concerns make it hard for two people to get a good night's rest. "Sleep divorces" are more common than you might think, but the stigma about them remains. In this episode, Dr. Solomon shares tips for how to discuss sleeping arrangements with your partner.
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The Extraordinary Importance of Sleep (P&T, December 2018) Susan Worley
Wendy M. Troxel, Ph.D., Theodore F. Robles, Ph.D., Martica Hall, Ph.D., and Daniel J. Buysse
The Bizarre Social History of Beds What We Did in Bed: A Horizontal History by Brian Fagan and Nadia Durrani
Is sleeping in separate beds bad for your relationship? A sleep scientist answers (TED’s “How to Be a Better Human” series)
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Unlocking Pleasure: How Imagination Can Empower and Reignite Us with Gina Gutierrez
Gina Gutierrez, co-founder of the audio platform Dipsea, joins Dr. Solomon for a conversation about sexuality, imagination, and empowerment. They discuss how audio erotica can help people— particularly women—reconnect with their pleasure and create a safe space for exploration with storytelling.
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Navigating Life Transitions As a Couple: A Conversation With My Husband, Todd
Life transitions are inevitable. For couples and families, these chapters offer unique challenges and opportunities. This fall, Dr. Solomon and her husband, Todd, are experiencing a major change of their own, as they launch their youngest off to college and become "empty-nesters." They sat down together in the studio for a candid conversation about what this time is bringing up for them and how they plan to process and celebrate the beginning of this new chapter together.
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I Love Them, But I'm Not In Love With Them (Re-release)
Has someone every said this phrase to you? Have you ever said it to someone else? In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Solomon explores why the statement "I love you, but I'm not in love with you" is so complicated and what might actually be lying beneath these words in the context of an intimate relationship.
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Inviting a Reluctant Partner into Relationship Work (Re-release)
Working to improve your relationship is hard enough, and when your partner is resistant to the idea of reflecting together, it can feel like you're doomed. In this re-release of a foundational episode, Dr. Solomon explores this common conundrum and shares reminders for the enthusiastic partner who is ready to dive into Relational Self-Awareness work, as well as for the partner who may be feeling more reluctant for a number of reasons.
A note: The podcast will be taking a break for the next two weeks and will return on August 22nd with another re-release episode!
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Finding Your People: Navigating Friendships in Adulthood with Lane Moore
Lane Moore, the Author of "You Will Find Your People," joins Dr. Solomon for a discussion about the joys and heartbreaks of friendship. Lane shares her impetus to write this thoughtful book, and the two discuss why some people might struggle more with friendship due to their upbringing or past experiences, and how they can create a community of people they love as adults.
You Will Find Your People: How to Make Meaningful Friendships As an Adult by Lane Moore:
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Should You Be Friends with Your Ex?
When a relationship comes to a close, how do we decide for ourselves what kind of connection, if any, should remain between us and our former partner? In this episode, Dr. Solomon explores the topic of friendship with exes and shares some helpful musings and questions for anyone who is hoping to gain clarity about what might serve them and their former partner best in this new uncharted chapter.
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Strategies for a Thriving Long-Distance Relationship
Long-distance relationships are no walk in the park, but that doesn't mean they can't thrive. In this episode, Dr. Solomon tackles this topic, sharing tools and tips for couples. If you and your partner live in different time zones, are pros at FaceTime dates, and are constantly asking, "when's our next visit?", this episode is for you.
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Healing from Collective Trauma: Marking the Anniversary of the Highland Park Shooting with Audrey Grunst
Dr. Alexandra sits down with Audrey Grunst, a therapist and crisis response expert, to honor the memory of the victims and survivors of the Highland Park Shooting, and to paint a picture of the circles of impact that devastating tragedies such as this one have on communities. Content warning: this episode contains discussions about gun violence, mass shootings, trauma, and recovery. If you're looking for ways to take action, please refer to the resources below as places to start:
Moms Demand Action:
https://momsdemandaction.org/act/
Brady: United Against Gun Violence:
https://www.bradyunited.org/take-action
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Embracing the Bittersweet: The Beauty of Longing and Impermanence with Susan Cain
Susan Cain, author of the world-renowned bestsellers "Bittersweet" and "Quiet," joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about how to honor the poignancy found in the transitional periods of our lives, whether we're launching our kids off into the world, grieving the end of a relationship, or growing old. They also discuss the ways in which the bittersweet impacts and enhances our intimate relationships.
Bittersweet: How Sorrow and Longing Make Us Whole by Susan Cain:
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"On Children" by Kahlil Gibran (poem)
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Breaking Patterns & Moving Forward: The Science of Stuck with Britt Frank
Britt Frank joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about "stuckness" in all its forms. We're all familiar with this feeling in some way or another, and in this episode, Britt offers listeners tools and takeaways to confront stuckness head on, so that we can face ourselves with honesty and learn the skills to carve healthier paths for ourselves in the future.
The Science of Stuck: Breaking Through Inertia to Find Your Path Forward by Britt Frank:
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How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Tools for Progress & Peace with Alicia Muñoz
Cycles of rumination and overthinking can be hard to break free from, and they can negatively impact us and our relationships. In this episode, therapist Alicia Muñoz joins Dr. Alexandra to address this common thought pattern and shares tools for how to slow down and release ourselves from this headspace.
Stop Overthinking Your Relationship: Break the Cycle of Anxious Rumination to Nurture Love, Trust, and Connection with Your Partner by Alicia Muñoz:
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Cultivating Contemplation: How Wonder Helps us Heal with Cole Arthur Riley
Dr. Alexandra is joined by the visionary writer and poet Cole Arthur Riley on this episode. They discuss Cole's book, "This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us," and explore topics of wonder, contemplation, disability, childhood, and much more.
This Here Flesh: Spirituality, Liberation, and the Stories That Make Us by Cole Arthur Riley:
Black Liturgies, a project that integrates spiritual practice with Black emotion, Black literature, and the Black body:
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Modern Family Values: How to Be the Parents We Want to Be in a Busy World with Dr. Yael Schonbrun
Dr. Alexandra is joined by psychologist and author Dr. Yael Schonbrun for a hopeful and inspiring conversation about working parenthood. They discuss the challenges of balancing family and work life as well as strategies to help busy parents structure their lives in a way that works for their family and aligns with their values.
Work, Parent, Thrive: 12 Science-Backed Strategies to Ditch Guilt, Manage Overwhelm, and Grow Connection by Dr. Yael Schonbrun:
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Getting Real About Pleasure: Reclaiming Desire with Dr. Laurie Mintz
Dr. Laurie Mintz joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about all things pleasure, from the orgasm gap to sexual myths to vibrators, offering inspiration and encouragement to both individuals and couples as they seek to reignite and reconnect with their desire and sexual identity.
Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters--And How to Get It by Dr. Laurie Mintz:
A Tired Woman's Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship by Dr. Laurie Mintz:
She Comes First: The Thinking Man's Guide to Pleasuring a Woman by Dr. Ian Kerner:
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12 Strategies for Swiping with Relational Self-Awareness
In this episode, Dr. Alexandra offers 12 practical strategies for navigating dating apps with self-compassion and success. These strategies will help you tune into the emotions that are coming up inside you as you swipe so you can bring more Relational Self-Awareness to your dating journey.
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