Dating with Intention and Optimism: How to Get What You Want Out of Love with Case Kenny
Dr. Alexandra sits down with Case Kenny – creator, mindfulness expert, host of the podcast New Mindset, Who Dis? and author of That’s Bold of You and The Opposite of Settling: How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark – to discuss how societal “shoulds” around dating and relationships can create rigid expectations and fear-based decisions. Instead, they invite us to lean into curiosity, optimism, and self-awareness to get what we want out of love and dating.
Together, they dive into:
- Why the concept of “settling down” needs an upgrade—and what it means to “settle up” instead
- How understanding your “why” of dating shifts your whole approach
- Using the peak-end rule to reframe past dating experiences
- How showing up enthusiastically and with trust as the default right from the start can amplify your dating and relationship experiences
And so much more!
“Your Midyear Refresh” on MasterClass: masterclass.com/yourmidyearrefresh
Couple Therapy Certification Course from PESI: pesi.com/dralexandra
The Opposite of Settling: How to Get Everything You Want Out of Love and Life Without Losing Your Spark by Case Kenny
Learn more about Case Kenny: https://www.casekenny.com/
Order Dr. Alexandra’s book, Love Every Day
Your Mindset Changes Everything: The Power of Practical Optimism with Dr. Sue Varma
Today’s guest, psychiatrist and author Dr. Sue Varma, says that optimists may be born, but “practical optimists” are made. Not all optimism is good, and not all pessimism is bad. BUT when we become mired in negativity, Dr. Sue says, we become paralyzed and passive. So what’s the fix? In her book, Practical Optimism, and in this episode, she makes a compelling case for why we all need more optimism in our lives and tells us how we can cultivate it right now. Dr. Alexandra chats with Dr. Sue about the role self-compassion plays in this journey, and how finding your soul’s purpose can help you remain in an optimistic zone for decades to come. They also discuss how partners can explore their unique strengths in this area as a team.
Relevant links:
"Your Anxiety Toolkit" on MasterClass: www.masterclass.com/youranxietytoolkit
Practical Optimism The Art, Science, and Practice of Exceptional Well-Being by Dr. Sue Varma
Dr. Sue’s website
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