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Reimagining Love with Dr. Alexandra Solomon is your destination for profound, enlightening discussions about love, family, intimacy, and everything in between. A podcast that gives us the opportunity to reimagine ourselves, our relationships, and our world. Hosted by renowned clinical psychologist, professor, and author Dr. Alexandra Solomon featuring conversations with listeners as well as notable guests.
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Love Stories: Leading with Purpose with Julie Lythcott-Haims
Julie Lythcott-Haims, bestselling author of the books "How to Raise an Adult," "Real American," and "Your Turn: How to Be an Adult," joins Dr. Alexandra on the show to discuss her career, groundbreaking writing, and the challenges she's decided to take on along the way. Listen to feel inspired by Julie and her mission to bring attention to the issues that matter most.
How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success by Julie Lythcott-Haims:
How to Be an Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims:
https://bookshop.org/books/your-turn-how-to-be-an-adult-9781250838414/9781250137777
Real American: A Memoir by Julie Lythcott-Haims:
https://bookshop.org/books/real-american-a-memoir/9781250296733
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How to Love Well: The Little Things that Change Everything with Drs. John & Julie Gottman
Today's episode features two legends from the fields of couples therapy and relationship science: Dr John Gottman and Dr. Julie Gottman. They sit down with Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about their groundbreaking research and careers, as well as their own marriage, and share simple and actionable steps you can use today to deepen connection in your long-term partnership.
The Gottman Institute website:
The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy by Drs. John & Julie Gottman
Small Things Often (The Gottman Institute podcast):
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/small-things-often/id1498172564
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Coming Home to Ourselves: The Path to Thriving with Dr. Thema Bryant
Dr. Thema Bryant, president-elect of the American Psychological Association, joins Dr. Alexandra for a rich conversation about how we can heal, grow, and thrive, both on the individual and the community level. They also answer a listener question about how and when to speak up in difficult family arguments about religious beliefs.
Homecoming: Overcome Fear and Trauma to Reclaim Your Whole, Authentic Self by Dr. Thema Bryant:
The Antiracism Handbook by Dr. Thema Bryant and Dr. Edith G Arrington:
The Homecoming Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-homecoming-podcast-with-dr-thema/id1471604689
Dr. Thema's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/
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Talking About the Future: Navigating a Pace Discrepancy
On this solo episode, Dr. Alexandra dives into a topic that all of us have grappled with at some point or another: talking about the future with our partner. If you're struggling with a pace discrepancy with your partner, whether it's about becoming exclusive, moving in together, getting married, or starting any kind of new chapter, this conversation is for you.
Get the Talking About the Future worksheet:
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Love Stories: Partnership & Parenthood with Cathy & Todd Adams
On this special Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined by Cathy and Todd Adams. They're husband and wife, co-hosts of the popular podcast Zen Parenting Radio, and so much more. Cathy and Todd open up about all aspects of their relationship, discuss how it's grown and changed over time, and explore how it connects with their work around parenting and personal growth.
Cathy's book: "Zen Parenting: Caring for Ourselves and Our Children in an Unpredictable World"
Zen Parenting Radio:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/zen-parenting-radio/id414414318
Zen Parenting Website:
https://zenparentingradio.com/
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Loving and Loving Again: Personal Evolution in Relationships with Mark Groves
Mark Groves joins Dr. Alexandra to answer a listener question about getting back together with an ex, and they discuss the personal growth and expansion that's possible when we allow ourselves to get honest and vulnerable with the people we love most, and with ourselves.
Mark Groves Podcast:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mark-groves-podcast/id1282044290
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Tuning into You: How Self-Reflection Creates Healthy Relationships with Emmalee Bierly & Jennifer Chaiken
The Shrink Chicks—therapists Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken—join Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant conversation about cultivating self-understanding in the context of relationships and family. They tackle two wonderful listener questions and share lots of laughs along the way.
Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on Peanut:
peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove
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https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part 2)
Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.
In the second part of the "Should I Stay or Should I Go?" series, Dr. Alexandra continues the conversation about Relational Ambivalence and offers listeners eight things they can do to help them move from stuckness to clarity.
Listen to Part 1 of this series:
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/reimagining-love/id1588419386?i=1000574755271
Get the Relational Ambivalence worksheet:
www.dralexandrasolomon.com/ambivalence
Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:
peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove
"Should I Stay or Should I Go?" article by Dr. Alexandra:
https://dralexandrasolomon.com/should-i-stay-or-should-i-go-relational-uncertainty/
E-course for therapists & coaches: “Loving Bravely: Helping Clients who are Single, Dating, and Single Again”:
https://catalog.psychotherapynetworker.org/sales/pn_c_afc001347_15_lovingbravely_email-105645
Mark Groves Ted Talk:
https://www.ted.com/talks/mark_groves_you_were_born_to_love_you_evolved_to_fit_in?language=en
Book: Deliberate Practice in Emotion-Focused Therapy (Essentials of Deliberate Practice) by Dr. Rhonda N. Goldman:
https://www.amazon.com/Deliberate-Practice-Emotion-Focused-Therapy-Essentials/dp/1433832852/ref=sr_1_1?crid=L7QAJ78C3X9T&keywords=rhonda+goldman&qid=1659051680&sprefix=rhonda+goldman%2Caps%2C104&sr=8-1
Take Dr. Solomon's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Relational Ambivalence: Should I Stay or Should I Go? (Part 1)
Welcome back to Reimagining Love! On today's episode, Dr. Alexandra explores the complicated question that many of us have faced at some point in our lives: Should I stay in this relationship, or should I leave? If you're unsure of what the wisest path forward is, and you're hoping to proceed with compassion for your partner and yourself, this episode is for you.
Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:
peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Love Stories: Toddcast
Dr. Alexandra's husband Todd joins her in the studio for a special and personal episode about their decades-long love story and marriage, sharing joyful moments and the lessons they've learned along the way.
Register for the Fall 2022 Art of Living Retreat, A Couples Retreat with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
https://artoflivingretreatcenter.org/event/faculty/alexandra-solomon/loving-bravely/
Check out Dr. Alexandra's community on the Peanut App:
peanut.app.link/ReimaginingLove
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Getting to Zero: Conflict & Repair with Jayson Gaddis
Dr. Alexandra is joined by Jayson Gaddis, founder of The Relationship School and the book "Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships." They discuss Jayson's approach to conflict-repair, which focuses on calming the nervous system and bringing both partners to their baseline, where the potential for positive change is highest. Jayson and Dr. Alexandra answer a great listener question as well about broaching difficult topics in the context of an intimate partnership.
The Art of Living Retreat with Dr. Alexandra Solomon:
https://artoflivingretreatcenter.org/event/faculty/alexandra-solomon/loving-bravely/
The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
https://www.family-institute.org/
Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High-Stakes Relationships by Jayson Gaddis:
The Relationship School:
https://relationshipschool.com/
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Learning to Cherish: From "You & Me" to Us with Terry Real
World-renowned author and therapist Terry Real joins Dr. Alexandra for a discussion about his career, his new book (Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship), men in relationships, conflict resolution, and more.
The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
https://www.family-institute.org/
Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terry Real:
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Disrupting the Underfunctioning/ Overfunctioning Dynamic
Dr. Alexandra explores the common underfunctioning/overfunctioning dynamic in long-term partnerships. She talks about why many couples fall prey to these roles, whether as a result of cultural messaging or family-of-origin scripts, and she shares strategies for breaking free from this dance so that the relationship can feel more balanced.
The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
https://www.family-institute.org/
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
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Love Stories: Permission for Pleasure with Al Fine, Co-Founder & CEO of Dame Products
On this Love Stories episode, Dr. Alexandra is joined Alexandra Fine, the co-founder and CEO of Dame Products, an innovative company that designs pleasure-enhancing products for people with vulvas. This episode is all about Dame the brand, but more importantly, it’s about Al, the very special person behind Dame's groundbreaking products, who had a radical vision she followed to fruition.
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
Register for the REWRITE YOUR LOVE STORY workshop with Vienna Pharaon & Dr. Alexandra Solomon (June 14 or June 18, 2022):
http://dralexandrasolomon.com/ryls/
Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for a discount at checkout):
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Understanding Ourselves: The Challenge & Gift of Therapy with Lori Gottlieb
Lori Gottlieb, Atlantic columnist and bestselling author of “Maybe You Should Talk to Someone,” joins Dr. Alexandra for a conversation about her book and the role of therapy in modern life. They also answer two listener questions together.
Take Dr. Alexandra's E-Course, Intimate Relationships 101 (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout)
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/intimate-relationships-101
Maybe You Should Talk to Someone by Lori Gottlieb:
"Dear Therapist" Column in The Atlantic:
https://www.theatlantic.com/projects/dear-therapist/
Dear Therapists with Lori Gottlieb & Guy Winch (podcast):
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696
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Self-Advocacy in Action: Finding Your Voice in Relationships with Nedra Tawwab
Dr. Alexandra is joined by Nedra Tawwab to talk about relational boundaries, self-advocacy, and communication. Nedra offers a whole host of wonderful questions we can ask ourselves when we are feeling drained or annoyed by our partner, as well as suggestions for a listener with a depressed partner who is struggling to establish caretaking boundaries in her relationship.
Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):
Set Boundaries, Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab:
https://bookshop.org/books/set-boundaries-find-peace-a-guide-to-reclaiming-yourself/9780593192092
Nedra's Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/nedratawwab/
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Reaching the Summit: The Challenges & Possibilities of Modern Love with Dr. Eli Finkel
Dr. Eli Finkel, a social psychology professor at Northwestern University, joins Dr. Alexandra for an in-depth discussion about the state of marriage and long-term partnership today, in an ever-changing and ever-complicated world. They also discuss Eli's book, The All-Or-Nothing Marriage, and answer a listener question together about a new relationship.
The Family Institute at Northwestern University:
https://www.family-institute.org/
The All-Or-Nothing Marriage by Eli J. Finkel:
https://bookshop.org/books/the-all-or-nothing-marriage-how-the-best-marriages-work/9781101984345
Dr. Eli Finkel's Website:
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We Need to Talk About Ghosting
Have you ever been ghosted? Dr. Alexandra dives into the cultural weight of this term, and why the experience of being left in the lurch can feel so incredibly painful. Rather than fixating on the unanswerable question of why someone ghosted us, wondering if we did something wrong, or minimizing the pain, Dr. Alexandra encourages us to sit in the grief of a confusing ending and find strength amid the disappointment.
Shop Dame Products (use code LOVEPOD for 10% off at checkout):
Dr. Alexandra's E-Course: Can I Trust You Again? Rebuilding After Betrayal or Deceit:
https://courses.dralexandrasolomon.com/can-i-trust-you-again-rebuilding-after-betrayal-or-deceit
We Need to Talk About Ghosting - Worksheet:
https://docs.google.com/document/d/1AdPotRUt94nPJ5i8-mDavCuzsmwecgRPrg4rqnjWmFg/edit?pli=1
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Love Stories: Writing Relationships with Novelist Monica Ali
In celebration of her new novel, Love Marriage, acclaimed writer Monica Ali joins Dr. Alexandra for a vibrant discussion about writing love stories, exploring themes of sexuality and culture in fiction, and the things that creative writing and therapy may have in common. Love Marriage is a beautiful book that follows two cultures, two families and the secrets they keep, and is available for pre-order now (see below).
Pre-order Love Marriage by Monica Ali:
https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Love-Marriage/Monica-Ali/9781982181475
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Monica Ali's website:
Somatic Abolitionism: Understanding Racialized Trauma Through the Body with Resmaa Menakem
Dr. Alexandra is joined by Resmaa Menakem, a therapist and licensed clinical social worker who specializes in the healing of racialized trauma, for a truly transformative conversation about the somatic impacts of racism and how we can move towards reckoning and healing.
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Resmaa's website:
The Quaking of America: An Embodied Guide to Navigating Our Nation's Upheaval and Racial Reckoning by Resmaa Menakem
My Grandmother's Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies by Resmaa Menakem