When You're the One Doing the Work

A live virtual workshop with Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Saturday, June 13 at 3pm ET | 90 minutes | $79

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What it feels like to be the one who notices…

There's a gap between where your relationship is and where you'd like it to go. You're not in crisis mode but some changes could do you both good. You dive in and read all the books (or listen to the podcasts) and slip some of those insights to your partner, hoping something will resonate with them. Meanwhile, your partner thinks everything is just fine.

That is an incredibly lonely place to be and we don't talk about it enough.

Shift Something in You, Change Everything Around You

Relationships are complex systems. Just because something feels off, doesn't mean your partnership is broken.

This workshop is about understanding the cycle you're both stuck in and trading some of that frustration for compassion, for yourself and for your partner.

During our time together, I'll help you see your dynamic more clearly than you have before and leave with a concrete first step toward inviting your partner into the work.

When one part of the system shifts, the whole thing shifts with it, even when that shift starts with just you.

What We'll Do Together

We'll spend 90 minutes live, on camera, working through this together. Here's what that looks like:

Name what's really going on. We'll look honestly at the dynamic you're in, why you keep noticing what your partner isn't doing, why they keep missing what you need, and why your best efforts to bridge the gap keep falling short. Understanding the cycle is the thing that makes everything else possible.

Move from insight to action. Through guided journaling and real-time reflection, you'll start to see your partner and your own role in the pattern differently. Not theoretically. Actually differently.

Leave with something concrete. You'll rewrite a question you've been asking your partner. You'll get a word-for-word script for opening a conversation at home this week without the weight of "we need to talk." And you'll design a small, specific experiment to try in the days that follow.

This is designed for individuals, but if your partner wants to join you, they are absolutely welcome.

About Dr. Alexandra

Dr. Alexandra Solomon is a licensed clinical psychologist, professor at Northwestern University, and the author of Loving Bravely and Taking Sexy Back. She has spent nearly 30 years doing couples therapy and teaching people how relationships actually work.

She built this workshop around the question she has been asked more than any other in her career: how do I create more connection when I feel like I'm the only one trying?

This is her answer.

A Note From Ali

I want to be honest with you about what this workshop is and isn't.

It isn't a place to build a case against your partner. When you're the one doing all the relational work, it is deeply tempting to walk into a space like this hoping someone will finally say, "You're right. They should be doing more." I understand that impulse. I've felt it myself.

But that's not what's going to help you. What's going to help you is understanding the cycle you're in well enough to step out of your part of it. That shift, even a small one, is what creates a real opening for something to change.

I've seen it happen more times than I can count. I'd love to see it happen for you.

xo,

Alexandra

The Details

Date: Saturday, June 13 at 3pm ET

Time: 90 minutes, live and virtual

Investment: $79

Can't make it live? A recording will be available to all registered attendees.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Not at all. This workshop is designed to meet you where you are. If you're familiar with my work, you'll find this goes deeper into some of the concepts I teach. If you're coming in fresh, everything you need will be in the room.

  • Yes, and they are welcome. This workshop is designed for the person who is already doing the relational work, so it will be most resonant for you. But if your partner wants to show up alongside you, there is absolutely a seat for them.

  • Yes. Everyone who registers will receive access to the recording after the event, so you don't need to worry if something comes up on June 13th.

  • It's not. This is a workshop, which means it's educational and experiential rather than clinical. That said, many of the tools and frameworks come directly from my work as a couples therapist, so the grounding is real even if the format is different.

  • You're still welcome here. This workshop isn't only for people whose relationships are basically fine. It's for anyone who wants to understand the dynamic they're in and try something different. If you're in a genuinely difficult moment, this can be a good complement to individual or couples therapy, not a replacement for it.

  • The workshop is $79. Because this is a live event with a recording included, we are not able to offer refunds after registration. If you have a specific concern, reach out to our team and we'll do our best to help.