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Parents, Your Millennial Kid Wants to Talk With You about Love

A new report confirms what my students have been telling me for years—millennials want to talk with their parents about love! A team of researchers at Harvard University gathered data about the love lives of over 3,000 young adults (ages 18 to 25-year-olds) and found: 65% of these young adults wished that they had received […]
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3 Lessons You Should Have Learned in Sex Ed… But Didn’t

In the undergraduate class I teach at Northwestern University, we spend quite a bit of time discussing sex, and, year after year, I am struck by how many of my (bright and talented) students have not received a well-rounded and wholehearted education about sex. It seems that most of us have learned a whole lot […]
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Love is NOT a Battlefield: How to End Polarization for Good

We use the term “couple” to mean a pair of people who are joined together in a relationship, but the truth is many couples exist almost entirely in a polarized state. It’s as if they are on either side of a tug-of-war rope and both are pulling as hard as they can but neither is moving. All this effort […]
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The Question Happy Couples Are Willing to Ask

In any relationship, conflict is inevitable. The difference between happy couples and unhappy couples is all about HOW they navigate the rough waters of conflict. So what is the million dollar question that happy couples are willing to ask? In that very moment when you are frustrated, angry or annoyed, stop and ask yourself, “What […]
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Common Areas of Conflict: Housework

According to my colleague Dr. Cheryl Rampage, housework is “the spinach of married life.” While almost no one like housework, it has to get done! What’s worse, chances are pretty high that intimate partners will have different beliefs and needs when it comes to cleaning and household chores. (My therapy mentor once tried to convince […]