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I Went to See About a Girl: Career Detours in the Name of Love

In the movie Good Will Hunting, Will Hunting, played by Matt Damon, is in therapy with Sean Maguire, played by Robin Williams. Will is a young man at a crossroads. The woman he loves is off to California for graduate school, and he has to decide whether or not he should go with her. He has to decide whether […]
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What makes someone vulnerable to cheating? Here is one major reason

A common belief and fear in our society is that people cheat because they are looking for someone better. This is true, however that “someone” is probably not who you think it is. The major attraction in an affair is often not the affair partner themselves, but the version of the self that this person […]
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Thriving in Marriage Rather than Just Surviving: Beyond Fight or Flight

We’re all familiar with the idea of fight or flight. It’s the instinctual reaction humans have to any form of threat or distress. But how has fight or flight become part of our relationships? In my work as a couples therapist, I have seen many couples for whom fight or flight has become their default […]
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Is Your Smartphone Killing Your Relationship?

Mobile communication is arguably the most significant technological advancement of the 21st  century, creating the opportunity for two people situated tens of thousands of miles apart to connect instantly. But at the same time, these handheld super computers can also drive interpersonal relationships apart, creating disengagement and separation between two people sitting at the same […]
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The Question Happy Couples Are Willing to Ask

In any relationship, conflict is inevitable. The difference between happy couples and unhappy couples is all about HOW they navigate the rough waters of conflict. So what is the million dollar question that happy couples are willing to ask? In that very moment when you are frustrated, angry or annoyed, stop and ask yourself, “What […]