Press Archive | Dr. Alexandra Solomon

Mark Groves Podcast – November 19, 2018

Making Your Heart Make Sense: What makes long-term relationships go the distance? with Dr. Alexandra Soloman …

The RESPECT Podcast – October 31, 2018

Alexandra Solomon with the Discovery & Exploration in Long-Term Marriage & Relationships …

The Atlantic – December, 2018

Why Are Young People Having So Little Sex? …

2 weeks ago by dr.alexandra.solomon If you love New Year's Resolutions, go for it! I'll cheer you on every step of the way. But some of us could use a different path. How about a YEAR END LETTER from YOU to YOU? Write it in the next couple of days and then tuck it away until this time next year. Write about 2018 as a chapter in the bigger story of your life: ~What were the major themes this year? ~Who were the heroes and villains? ~Major conflicts? ~Victories? ~Disappointments? ~Surprising twists? ~Lessons learned? You see, we are meaning-making creatures by nature, so storytelling is
13 hours ago by dr.alexandra.solomon Ah vulnerability. As Brene Brown says, it’s the first thing I want to see in you and the last thing I want you to see in me. *** Do you identify as someone who struggles to “open up”? Let’s unpack that struggle a bit because, you see, opening up isn’t an individual personality trait. It’s a relational process. *** Opening up happens in the sacred space between two people. And people need to earn the right to your story. How do they do that? By demonstrating that they can~~ * hold onto an awareness that you are both deeply imperfect
3 weeks ago by dr.alexandra.solomon The path of gentleness sometimes means opting for silence over voice. The things we do NOT say have the power to deepen relational bonds. When someone you love screws up... and you say nothing... that can be just the kindest gift of all. *** We do this weird thing where we equate “constructive criticism” with love. **** For sure there’s a place for giving feedback, especially when the other person’s behavior hurts us. I’m not taking some pro-doormat stance here. But sometimes, we step in and we offer an unnecessary lesson that erodes relational connection/safety/vulnerability. Sometimes the other person is
2 weeks ago by dr.alexandra.solomon Can I be real for a hot minute here? This super intense early January self-improvement vibe is kicking my ass right now. I see people writing goals, commercials about weight-loss, and articles about making a fresh start, and I just feel my energy tank. And then I feel a self-criticism rise in me~~ “c’mon, get at it! Set goals! Make a plan! Get with the program.” ~~~ And I know you know that no good self-improvement ever happened from a place of self-deprecation. ~~~ So my next move is this: I put my hand on my heart and I breathe
5 days ago by dr.alexandra.solomon We don’t ask for our wounds, but we are responsible for addressing them. When we have the courage to face our wounds, name them, get to know the impact of them, we put ourselves on a powerful path of healing. Refusing to address our pain points puts us at massive risk of “acting out.” *** Acting out= self-sabotage, addiction, engaging in toxic relationship patterns, putting ourselves in high risk situations. *** Those acting out behaviors are us trying to get our own attention. “Can you hear me yet?” our wounds cry out. “How about now?” That spiral continues until we

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