Press Archive | Dr. Alexandra Solomon

NBC News – January 22, 2019

How to use these common relationship conflicts to strengthen your bond …

Psychology Today – January, 4, 2019

Do You Believe in Soulmates? Should You? …

Elite Daily – December 2018

If Your Ex Is Still Texting You, Here's What That Means …

5 days ago by dr.alexandra.solomon I’m freezing. I’ve been sitting in my dead Subaru for 90 minutes. I ran out of gas, you see. This has never happened before, and it’s actually a perfect metaphor for my life right now. Ran. Out. Of. Gas. In the middle of the road in the middle of middle school drop off. #winning . My first thought is to call my step-dad cuz I’m a grown ass feminist who still needs her dad to help her think through her next steps. My second thought is that I don’t want to tell my husband that this happened and I’m gonna figure
1 month ago by dr.alexandra.solomon Blind spots. The question isn’t whether or not you have blind spots. Newsflash, we all do. The question is whether you can explore your blind spots with self-compassion and humility. *** Love and feedback go hand in hand. If we can’t make the space between us feel safe enough to share observations, reflections, hurts, and longings, we set the stage for disconnection and resentment. Bleh. We have to cultivate an atmosphere in which people can give and receive feedback. *** Here’s how it looks in action: Partner A feels hurt by Partner B. A’s job is to bring that hurt
1 month ago by dr.alexandra.solomon Attention Hopeless Romantics: please don’t go changing. Our world needs your passionate heart, your courageous vulnerability, and your belief in LOVE. And please know that you are NOT alone. Craving authentic connection is everyone’s default mode. It’s just that some people have gotten lost~~ *in their wounds *in toxic cultural messages that equate gentleness with weakness *in these phones that offer us too damn many options Stay the course, Hopeless Romantics. Keep hoping. Keep leading with love. Keep sharing yourself with the world. ... just also keep practicing your healthy boundaries. Read the feedback so that when you get naked
3 weeks ago by dr.alexandra.solomon There’s an important shift we make on the healing journey. Old way: * I effed that up. * You effed that up. * That’s effed up. * All of the above. New way: * FGO: effing growth opportunity *********** Instead of getting locked into our suffering, we must commit ourselves to cultivating a willingness to stay open to the lessons that always accompany pain. This is not an either/or (either pain or growth). Hurt hurts. So we’re gonna hurt. We’re gonna cry. We’re gonna feel like stuff is wildly unfair (stuff is wildly unfair). AND, in the midst of pain,
2 weeks ago by dr.alexandra.solomon Our past travels with us into our intimate partnerships~~ wounds, blessings, and all. If your childhood involved witnessing volatile and unpredictable relationships, you likely learned to associate love with chaos. Those two things got connected in your brain. And you learned to adapt to tension. On the one hand, thank the goddesses that you learned to adapt. It’s what helped you grow up into the resilient soul you are today. On the other hand, every adaptation that we develop (cuz we needed to develop it) carries with it a consequence. If you learned to cope with unpredictability, then you are

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